Girls Are Baffled By A 'New Trend' Where Guys Ghost Them Then Like Their Pics On Social Media Afterwards
ED – But ever since he ghosted [Maya], something weird has started to happen. “When we were ‘together,’ he never liked any of my Instagram pictures. But now that we’re over — no joke — he has double tapped every single one of my pictures.”
Brooke*, 23, had a similar situation with a guy who started ignoring her texts out of the blue while they were dating. She tried calling him out, saying, “I texted him saying, ‘Hey, it’s the girl you appear to be ghosting for some reason.’” He told her his new puppy had bit their neighbor, so he was “too depressed” to socialize with anyone.
She believed him and gave him time to come around once he got over the dog drama. But he never reached out to her again. And in her words, “it became a true ghost.”
It was only then that the likes started pouring in. They had followed each other on Instagram a few weeks ago while they were still dating, but it wasn’t until after he ghosted her that he started liking her pictures. “He didn’t like any of the pictures I posted while we were dating,” she said, “but after ghosting me, he liked a mirror picture of me in a tight purple dress and a picture of a bar with two glasses of champagne, both of which I posted after he ghosted me.”
In case you’re not familiar with the concept of “ghosting”:
^this Urban Dictionary user: Not a fan of getting ghosted. But the fact that women would find guys doing this followed by the social media onslaught to be perplexing shows they really don’t get guys at all. They get the part where guys want a certain amount of ownership in their head even if they’re gone, I’m sure that’s a factor. I personally think it’s fulfilling to keep up with a person, see where they are in life even if they exited prematurely. And I’m sure there are some dudes who do like I’ve talked about on Swipe Drunk Love and want to keep some hooks in on a girl even after she’s long gone; maybe not applicable if you’re ghosting but you reply to her Snapchat stories, throw a like or comment on Instagram here or there, it’s like you’re keeping up an actual human connection with the barest minimums of effort and can then DENNIS system your way back into her heart if you want.
But for a lot of dudes it’s probably more that you just want to see chicks who look good on your Instagram. It might be some busty Barstool Smokeshow, it might be some fake model chick who bafflingly is always in the finest resorts and homes in Dubai, or it might be a chick you used to go out with whom you ghosted but now is looking REAL good because it’s almost summer and she dropped the “I pretend to love football and eat way too many wings on NFL Sundays” weight. But either way, if any of those chicks look good they’re getting a like. It’s a simple currency for the bit of joy brought into your day AND the possibility that the girl sees that like and for some reason wants to fuck you for it. That core human code doesn’t go away just because you ditched a girl without even the slightest courtesy of a text. Chick looking good gets a like, it’s a basic human right.
Plus if there’s one thing I know about women it’s this: They fucking LOVE social media likes. And you just know if some dude who ghosted a chick and left her in a darkened alleyway full of cannibal rapists (like rapists who are also cannibals, not rapists who solely target cannibals), she would still gladly take that little Heart on her Instagram if it got her over 100 likes. Take that righteous indignation elsewhere unless you don’t want to look more popular on your non-bikini pics. Maybe it’s emotional warfare, maybe it’s fucking you up, it’s still mostly a mutually beneficial exchange. That’s all I’m saying.